Not that I'm preaching, but I have been reading my blogs from years past and found this one post (I'm sure I got it from somewhere). I thought it was a good set of guidelines to live by or at least think about. I mean no offense to other people reading it so if you're freaked out of M2M things, then stop and move on... Well, if you're offended then you shouldn't be my friend and not even be able to see or read this. Hehehe.
GUIDELINES IN KEEPING MEN TO MEN RELATIONSHIPS
* Treat the man you love with love. Always. Anger, jealousy, and fear are valid emotions, but they are not valid excuses for treating him with non-love.
* You may not yet live together and maybe never will, but make your house or apartment his home as well.
* Don't take out your work frustrations on your boyfriend.
* Don't refer to your love as your "future ex-lover." That kind of sarcasm and pessimism is destructive.
* Do you empty you boyfriend's pockets to check for matchbooks with other guy's phone numbers? Check his phone bill to see whom he's calling long distance? Don't. If you distrust him so much, then enough is wrong with the relationship that spying won't set it right.
* Think twice before tattooing your boyfriend's name on your biceps (think thrice if it's a place where the sun don't shine). Sometimes the tattoo lasts longer than the love. And if you think getting rid of a boyfriend you've fallen out of love with is painful, try getting rid of a tattoo.
* Don't place your man on a pedestal. Sooner or later, he will lose his balance and fall off.
* Nix the nagging. Nix the whining.
* Don't finish his sentences.
* Don't expect your boyfriend to trust you automatically. Why should he? Trust must be earned.
* Be honest. Keep your promises. Don't make commitments you know you won't keep. If you can't honor your promises and commitments, renegotiate them.
* Phone when you'll be late for dates.
* Never take advantage of his emotional fragility.
* Try not to be too possessive. It can be toxic.
* Let him have a new friendship that's only his.
* Let him go to the movies without you.
* Let him dance with other guys.
* Always make time for him. Being too busy is not an excuse.
* Let older men into your life. Youth worship is self-defeating. We will all grow older. Don't deprive yourself of elders' hard-earned wisdom and love.
* Stand by your man. Unless he's the Unabomber. In that case, what are you doing with him anyway?
* Take care of him when he's sick. Put on your Florence Nightingale cap and be the best damn nurse he'll ever have.
* You don't have to suffer silently. Let him know when you're hurting.
* Put his photo on your desk at work if you're so inclined.
* If your partner doesn't want to come out at work and introduce you, accept it. He knows his work situation and the possible repercussions of coming out better than you do.
* Dare to use the royal "We" every now and then. It can strengthen your love to refer to yourselves publicly as a couple.
* Stimulate him intellectually.
* Encourage him in his work, his creativity, and his personal growth.
* When you vacation together, go somewhere you both want to go.
* Be a considerate son-in-law.
* If he has children, be a good stepparent.
* If he has an ex-wife, be friendly to her.
* Love should improve the quality of your lives. Do whatever you can to make his life easier and better.
* Sometimes making love and sex overlap, and sometimes they don't. Sometimes a fuck is just a fuck and has little to do with love. Learn the difference.
* As an act of faith, buy condoms in bulk. (But don't forget they have expiration dates.)
* Don't be greedy in bed. Give a damn about his orgasm, too.
* Wonder if you're satisfying him? Ask. Be prepared to deal with him saying no.
* Ask him what he likes. Tell him what you like.
* Do it outside. Do it inside.
* Explore a sex shop together. Show each other what toys and images turn you on.
* If you give him a sex toy as a gift, keep it private.
* Ask before you insert any sex toy. Wait for an answer. Respect the answer.
* Smear him with ice cream and enjoy dessert. (This guarantees thirty- one variations without even changing the flavors.) Let him be your flavor of the month.
* Try body paints. Experiment with applicators. Don't use a paintbrush.
* Learn from the lesbians: Keep your fingernails short.
* Plan sex.
* Have spontaneous quickies.
* Release your inner slut for him.
* Overwhelm him with your passion.
* Let all five of your senses throb with sensuality.
* Kiss him gently.
* Kiss him like you mean it.
* Lick his inner thigh.
* Suck his fingers.
* Rub. Nuzzle. Slurp. Nibble.
* Do it silently.
* Do it like thunder.
* Sometimes let sex be an aerobic workout.
* Sometimes let sex be slow, lazy, and relaxed.
* Teach him your best sex tricks.
* Tell him your sex secrets.
* Perform a striptease.
* Read erotic passages to him.
* Be gentle. Be wild.
* Be passive. Be bold.
* Reciprocate.
* Make love to him above the waist, too.
* Don't leave a hickey first without asking.
* Don't use your lover's handles as love handles.
* Tell him he's a good lover
